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The attraction ‘off switch’

I think I’ve talked about this here before but, let me tell you, it took me a really long time to realize that other people couldn’t just ‘turn off’ their attraction for someone else.

For me it was as easy as going ‘ya I don’t want to have a crush/like this person any more’ and poof! There went all my feeling towards them.

It was because of this that I never really understood why it was so hard for people I knew to just break up with someone or WHY they would keep going back to someone again and again.

Because for me there was an ‘off switch’ for my attraction to someone, because that attraction had never existed in the first place and I was just fooling myself into believing it was, while for others the attraction was a real, tangible thing that they couldn’t just turn off like it never existed.